ISOLATION
 
     Restricting Freedoms:
	 
__ Tells you that you can
   not do something
__ Jealous about who you see
__ Monitors your time, makes you 
   account for where you were
__ Does not allow you to leave 
   the house
__ Makes it difficult for you to 
   get a job
__ Restricts your use of the car
__ Tries to prevent you from 
   contacting family
__ Alienates you from family and 
   friends
__ Turns children against you
__ Keeps you from getting medical  
   care
__ Withholds affection to punish you
__ Tries to turn people against you

ECONOMIC ABUSE:
	  
__ Makes you account for all
   the money spent
__ Keeps you short of money
__ Makes you ask for basic 
   necessities
__ Undermines your attempts to 
   improve your education
__ Undermines your attempts to 
   get or keep a job
__ Controls the money
__ Makes you ask for money
__ Refuses to give you money
__ Makes all major decisions about 
   money without consulting you
__ Spends money only on things 
   he wants

MALE PRIVILEGE
	  
__ Demands obedience like 
   you were a servant
__ Makes decisions without 
   your input
__ Treats you like you were 
   inferior
__ Tells you you can't cope 
   without him
__ Treats you like a child

SEXUAL ABUSE
	  
__ Withholds sex to punish you
__ Pressures you to have sex
__ Forces you to have sex against 
   your will
__ Pressures you to have sex 
   after being abused
__ Pressures or forces you into 
   unwanted sex acts
__ Treats you like a sex object
__ Inflicts pain on you during sex

THREATS AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE
Threats to:
	
__ Turn people against you
__ Leave the relationship
__ See someone else
__ Take children away from you
__ Leave you short of money
__ Come after you if you leave
__ Have you committed to an 
   institution
__ Hurt or kill you and/or the 
   children
__ Hurt or kill himself/herself
__ Blames you for his/her problem
__ Drives your car in a frightening 
   way
__ Have someone else kill you, your 
   family, your friends etc.

ANGER AND INTIMIDATION
   By:
	  
   __ Changing his mood suddenly
   __ Giving silent treatment
   __ Demonstrating anger
   __ Shouting or yelling
   __ Pounding fist on table
   __ Hitting the wall
   __ Throwing or kicking something
   __ Stomping out of the room/house

PHYSICAL ABUSE
	  
__ Throws something at you
__ Pushes, grabs or shoves you
__ Pulls your hair
__ Twists your arm
__ Pins you to the wall, floor, bed
__ Chokes you
__ Kicks, hits or punches you
__ Hits, or tries to hit you with 
   something
__ Threatens you with a knife, gun 
   or other weapon
__ Tries to run you down with the car
__ Physically and/or sexually abuses 
   children
__ Kills pets
__ Deprives you of sleep

EMOTIONAL ABUSE
	  
   __ Says things to spite or 
      insult you in front of others
   __ Puts down your physical appearance
   __ Makes out you are stupid
   __ Criticizes your care of children/home
   __ Calls you names and swears at you
   __ Tells you you are crazy/irrational
   __ Accuses you of having an affair
   __ Ridicules family or friends
   __ Does not show concern for children's 
      needs or concerns
   __ Gets angry when children cry or make 
      demands
   __ Goes through personal things ie: purse, 
      drawers, pockets
   __ Frightens children's friends so they 
      stop coming over