| There are a variety of resources available to the community in
regards to abuse. Below are a collection of links to various resources,
some offered by us and others offered by other organizations. |
Are You Being Abused?
Here is a list to help you determine if you are being abused.
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ISOLATION: Restricting Freedoms:
- Tells you that you can not do something
- Jealous about who you see
- Monitors your time, makes you account for where you were
- Does not allow you to leave the house
- Makes it difficult for you to get a job
- Restricts your use of the car
- Tries to prevent you from contacting family
- Alienates you from family and friends
- Turns children against you
- Keeps you from getting medical care
- Withholds affection to punish you
- Tries to turn people against you
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ECONOMIC ABUSE:
- Makes you account for all the money spent
- Keeps you short of money
- Makes you ask for basic necessities
- Undermines your attempts to improve your education
- Undermines your attempts to get or keep a job
- Controls the money
- Makes you ask for money
- Refuses to give you money
- Makes all major decisions about money without consulting
you
- Spends money only on things he wants
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MALE PRIVILEGE
- Demands obedience like you were a servant
- Makes decisions without your input
- Treats you like you were inferior
- Tells you you can't cope without him
- Treats you like a child
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SEXUAL ABUSE
- Withholds sex to punish you
- Pressures you to have sex
- Forces you to have sex against your will
- Pressures you to have sex after being abused
- Pressures or forces you into unwanted sex acts
- Treats you like a sex object
- Inflicts pain on you during sex
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THREATS AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE
Threats to:
- Turn people against you
- Leave the relationship
- See someone else
- Take children away from you
- Leave you short of money
- Come after you if you leave
- Have you committed to an institution
- Hurt or kill you and/or the children
- Hurt or kill himself/herself
- Blames you for his/her problem
- Drives your car in a frightening way
- Have someone else kill you, your family, your friends
etc.
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ANGER AND INTIMIDATION
By:
- Changing his mood suddenly
- Giving silent treatment
- Demonstrating anger
- Shouting or yelling
- Pounding fist on table
- Hitting the wall
- Throwing or kicking something
- Stomping out of the room/house
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PHYSICAL ABUSE
- Throws something at you
- Pushes, grabs or shoves you
- Pulls your hair
- Twists your arm
- Pins you to the wall, floor, bed
- Chokes you
- Kicks, hits or punches you
- Hits, or tries to hit you with something
- Threatens you with a knife, gun or other weapon
- Tries to run you down with the car
- Physically and/or sexually abuses the children
- Kills pets
- Deprives you of sleep
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EMOTIONAL ABUSE
- Says things to spite or insult you in front of others
- Puts down your physical appearance
- Makes out you are stupid
- Criticizes your care of children/home
- Calls you names and swears at you
- Tells you you are crazy/irrational
- Accuses you of having an affair
- Ridicules family or friends
- Does not show concern for children's needs or concerns
- Gets angry when children cry or make demands
- Goes through personal things ie: purse, drawers, pockets
- Frightens children's friends so they stop coming over
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